Hi everyone,

My husband and I both have PR and plan to move out to Oz around 2013. Living in Australia has been a life long dream, however I have a dilemma! The dream always included my children moving out with me but now that theyre adults and have families of their own I realise that them being with me is not possible.

My husband and I both left the UK last year and after 7 weeks in Oz I decided that it was not the right time so we packed up and came back to the UK. My problem was my children and grandchildren, I cried constantly and missed them so much. But the pull of Oz is still there and both my husband and I so want to try again. I realise that 7 weeks was not enough time to settle and that by now (had we stayed) I would probably be alright without them. I was wondering whether anyone else has felt like this and packed it all in and then wanted to return and been successful second time around. I know when we go again that I will miss them enormously and cry and ache for them but was wondering how long it would take for me to adapt without them around me. I know everyone is different but any advice would be appreciated.

Many thanks

 

Hi, Welcome to PIO,

I wish i could say to you that after a few weeks you will be fine about leaving your family, unfortunately the truth is that some can move here and manage very well while leaving their kids back in the UK. Others come and after a few weeks the pull of the family is too great and they suffer terrible homesickness or probably more accurately a "people sickness" its not home you are missing but family and friends. There are things that people do to try and get over this problem, .....

SKYPE.... Arrange to see and talk to family on a regular basis using a service like SKYPE.
Family Holiday ....Arrange for family to come and visit you before you leave the UK, That way you will know that in "12 months" or what ever you decide on the family will be out to visit you, that will give you something to look forward to and you can plan what you are going to show them.

I am sure other members will have ideas, there is no easy solution......... I hope it works out for you.

 

Good advice.

 

Hi well we left our grown up kids behind, eldest one is married and spends half of the year in greece and the other half in the uk. Don't think she would ever move here. But live in hope My son is in a relationship and has a new baby so we wern't there for the ikkle one commng along.
My youngest just got married came out on WHV's and her hubby has landed a brill job with sponsership, so over the moon. One out of three ain't bad.
But do think my son will want to stay here once he comes for a visit this year.
We do hope we can have 2 out of three tho. Is hard and was heart breaking, leaving them all behind nice to have some family here

We do skype too which is easier and then they don't seem to far away
We did move here for a better life and have found it, so going back isn't an option, we just get on with life and try not to think too much.

Maybe like Colin said if you plan holidays for them to come here makes it all the more exciting and there is so much to see and do here.
I wish you well and hope you can settle this time.

All the best

Brig XC: